Water Birth Experience, YAY or NAY!?

Hey guys,

It has been such a long time since I’ve posted anything! Motherhood has been a huge adjustment and tbh, I haven’t found any sort of motivation to get back into writing again… BUT thankfully I’m back into the swing of things!

I’ve had a lot of people ask me about my birthing experience and so I thought I would do a blogpost on it! I hope you enjoy reading it and hopefully now that I have some sort of routine I can start regularly blogging again!

My Labour/Birth Experience

For a month, I had contemplated starting to write this blogpost but I genuinely didn’t know where to start. 2 months on (nearly 3, damn) and I still don’t know where to start *cries*

First and foremost, labour is the most painful thing that I’ve experienced/think I will experience. You really don’t know what you’re in for until you’re going through it. And boy oh boy, I didn’t think labour was EVER gonna end. When people ask me what contractions feel like, the only way I can really explain it is by comparing it to the most painful period pain… and multiplying that by 100. Seriously.


First Stages of Labour

I was 40 weeks + 1 day pregnant (slightly over baked) when I started getting contractions and then the next day I gave birth. My first thought was “Shit. I’m actually gonna have to push this baby out.. Shit shit shit.” I remember sitting on the toilet, FaceTiming one of my girls explaining this ordeal I was in. 4 hours into the contractions, I had decided that maybe it was time to go to the hospital to get checked out. I had been umm-ing and ahh-ing about going because my water hadn’t broken and I hadn’t gotten any of the other signs they tell you on the internet that labour was imminent- just contractions. I put it off for as long as I could until my boyfriend said “Yeah, maybe we should to the hospital..”. I didn’t realise that your water could break at any time during labour. Mine had broken whilst I was in the water! Once I had reached the hospital, I was only 2cm dilated so I had to go back home. I didn’t realise how PAINFUL car rides were when you’re in labour. Being stuck to a car seat and not being able to get into a more comfortable position was absolute TORTURE. Once I had reached my house from the hospital, that’s when the contractions were coming in fast and hard. From about 1pm – 11pm (until I finally decided to go back to the hospital), it was an absolute nightmare. I was trying to go into many different positions to try and ease the pain and nothing was working. Every contraction I could feel, I dreaded. By the time I got to the hospital, I was in unbearable pain and I was ready for this baby to come out. When we had gotten to the Triage Unit, it was one of the most awkwardest few hours of my life. The Triage Unit were for expectant mothers (ranging from 1 month – 10 months pregnant) who were there for a range of problems or appointments. And here I was; coming at 11pm to the hospital, shouting and screaming with every contraction whilst the hospital itself was so quiet. I was waiting in the Waiting Area with expectant mothers who weren’t in labour, for what seemed like hours. And honestly, I had lost all form of manner and decorum during this time. Women who were waiting there would look at me horrified or sympathetically as I screamed in pain for 40-50 odd seconds at a time. I didn’t care at all. My screams were coming loud and hard. Can you imagine being like 6 months pregnant and watching another woman go through each contraction? Nah, that would scar me forever.. I’d actually tell my baby not to come out.  Thankfully, when a midwife finally checked how many cm I was dilated I heard the words “You’re 7cm dilated, we can take you to the delivery suite now.” So off I went, being wheeled in a wheelchair to the delivery suite (yay).

WATER BIRTH (Active Labour)


Having a water birth was not what I had expected. When I went to the antenatal classes, the midwives were selling me dreams telling me that in terms of pain relief; water was second to having an epidural. I even watched so many Instagram videos on water births, and all these mothers were having calm spiritual experiences. So there I was thinking, the water would have some miracle effect during labour. I’d be breathing in and out and in control. Well nah, sorry to say that wasn’t the case. If anything – the warm water was more of a comfort rather than a pain relief. I was in excruciating pain for 20 hours trying to get in all sorts of weird positions in the water bath. My legs were wide open, all over the place and I just remember thinking “Fuck, I don’t think I’m ever going to get this baby out. Jesus should take me now.”

As a woman, I thought I wouldn’t be comfortable having everything out especially because I couldn’t fit in a cheeky wax before labour (looool) but I honestly didn’t give a shit. When you’re in so much pain, you genuinely forget everyone and everything in the room. You’re too busy trying to control the pain. I couldn’t even tell you what I looked like to everyone else in the room. There was just soooo much blood. Very, very unattractive to say the least! Looking back, I remember going in and out of sleep in the tub. It was so exhausting so I took little naps in between contractions.

The most painful part was definitely his head coming out. Oh damn. Such a big head he has. I honestly know no pain like it. His head coming out had to be done in stages and every time a bit of his head would come out, a little would go back in. So it was like riding a bike up a hill and stopping for a bit (in which you regress a little) and then continuing to ride your bike and stopping again and regressing a little (don’t know why I even used that analogy since I can’t even ride a bike l o l). I literally had two midwives holding each of my legs apart whilst I pushed his big ‘ol head out. When people ask me what it felt like, I can honestly say it felt like a hot rod was being shoved up my vagina (yeah I know, tmi.. sorry). After his head had come out, the rest of his body more or less came out with another push or two and at 6:15am on the 1st December 2016, my little Tyler was born. Even reminiscing back, I remember the sheer relief and joy I had knowing that he was safely brought into this world and he was finally here, on my chest.

After that, all that were left were the cutting of the cord and giving birth to the placenta. My boyfriend had cut the cord in one snip (which he was so pleased about since the midwife said that the cord may be a little be tricky to cut lool) and I had an injection to the leg so that the placenta would ease out. This stage of this labour was the easiest but most gruesome bit. I sat in my own pool of diluted blood just chilling.

After Birth

I’m so thankful to God that my birth was so smooth, I could of had it way worse than I did regardless of the amount of pain that came with it.

The last part was just checking that Tyler was healthy and to check for any tearing that I may have.  I was so scared that I had torn my perineum since it’s quite common and when the midwife ran her fingers around my vagina, I wanted to cry. It stung so bloody bad. But thankfully, I was left with no tears. It was all a sigh of relief that everything was over and here I am nearly 3 months on and my little munchkin has given me so much joy and happiness, that all the pain seemed so worth it.


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Are we mentally prepared for labour?!

Hi dolls!

So I’m over 38 weeks pregnant now (finally!!) and patiently waiting for the little man to make an appearance! With all the aches and pains getting worse as my due date draws near; I thought I would do another pregnancy related post on our thoughts on how ‘prepared’ we think we are for labour.


I get so many people asking me on a daily basis now, “Are you ready for labour?!” and “Are you scared about how painful it’s going to be?!“. I always just laugh and say very assertively “I’m actually really excited!“… Which I am. Don’t get me wrong, I know there are going to be a lot of screams and unbearable pain. But I’ve always been a firm believer of ‘We fear what we do not know’. As cliche as it sounds, it definitely suits the situation! Saying that, I don’t think anyone is really fully prepared for labour but there are things that I’ve been doing in order to put my mind more at ease in order not to ‘fear’ the actual pain and experience. I mean one way or another, he’s coming out of me (God willing, with no complications)! Tbh, with a lot of situations that I dread – I’ve learnt to have that ‘Can’t go under it, can’t go over it, gotta go through it’ attitude.

‘We’re going on a bear hunt’

Ngl, every now and then – I get overwhelmed with panic and shock that an actual baby will be coming out of my bits. Sometimes I do think I’m more scared about after my little boy is born rather than him physically coming out. No one gets a “How To Be The Perfect Parent” manual free with the baby! I do feel scared that I’m going to be completely hopeless.. but I’m going to save that for another blogpost. Anyways, so before I ramble further – here are a few things I’ve been doing to try and mentally prepare myself!

  • Antenatal Classes – Personally, going to these classes with my partner helped us incredibly! It was comforting to be with other pregnant women and their partners as well. We’re all in the same boat, with the same fears etc and it was helpful to have midwives talking to us in depth about different topics (depending on classes) as well as having the opportunity to ask questions. I’m glad the NHS offer these services (although they do get booked up quite quickly!) because they’re a great help. One class that we went to was solely about pain relief that’s available during labour and different techniques that you and your birth partner can do to ease the pain. They also handed out fabulous packs full of helpful diagrams and other information. Find Antenatal Classes (U.K.)
  •  Talk to midwife – Luckily, I found it incredibly easy to talk to my midwife about any worries I was having. Honestly, any questions – no matter how silly or embarrassing I found them, I asked her. I swear midwives have seen it all!
  • Listen with no fear – Every woman that has had a baby will have a story to tell about their birth. A lot of the time, the stories that you hear are more horror stories than anything else. Honestly…some of the things that I’ve heard made me want to die inside. I kind of just had to drill it in my head that every labour is different… I’m not necessarily going to have an extreme rip from my vagina to my anus due to my kid’s head coming out.
  • Talking to birth partner – Talking to my boyfriend as well as him being there at the antenatal classes really helped. He’s been amazing. We’ve also spoken about what’s going to go down when labour kicks in. What to do and what not to do etc. I’ve been shoving him pieces of paper with fabulous diagrams that demonstrate positions to help. When I get BH Contractions and they get quite strong, we practise some of these positions. This has put me at ease for when everything gets hectic!

    Such artistic diagrams, right?
  • Independent research – Lastly… doing independent research has really helped. With a lot of the stuff that you see on the internet, you’ve got to take a lot of it lightly and be smart about things. However, looking on websites such as Bounty or the NHS website (reliable websites!), I found really good tips which have helped me. For example, one of the main fears that I have is getting a tear. Even the thought of it makes me shudder!! But looking on the website, I found different ways which could help to prevent it.

Labour can start at ANY time, no matter what I’m doing at ANY time of ANY given day. Tbh, some days I do feel more mentally prepared than other days! Well… at least our hospital bags are prepared eh?

Hopefully after the little man is born, I’ll write up a blogpost on the labour/birth experience!

How was labour for you? What advice/tips would you give to soon to be mamas?

Fei xoxo

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